Whether you are a just in the bedroom, or 24/7, or every third Saturday of every other month couple, as long as you are happy with the way your relationship works, let the ‘true’ ways go. Your way is true enough for you and that is enough. Just because I am a 24/7 slave doesn’t mean the boy who only dons a collar in the bedroom is any less than I am. Doing what feels right for your relationship and your happiness is what you should do. There is no hierarchy either. A pet is no less than a sub is no less than a slave. Every relationship is wired differently, as is every individual person.